“My fiancé broke off our engagement. How can I use Reiki to make him come back to me?”
“I have been using Reiki for three weeks but my hair is not growing back. What am I doing wrong?”
All the above requests — and many more — have found their way to my inbox.
My instinct is always to help, but sometimes I’ve felt stumped, especially when people position Reiki as a magic wand or some kind of magical energy.
Reiki results can seem magical
Truly, the results of Reiki practice can seem magical, at least at first glance. We’ve all heard stories of someone learning to practice Reiki, and a sea of challenges calmed.
But what happened first, before the challenges calmed? The person became calmer. Don’t people who are calmer read situations differently, see opportunities anxious people miss, and make better choices?
Not so magical after all.
Reiki practice isn’t a tool for manipulating the universe or other people, and Reiki practitioners don’t magically get what they want. More often, they come to appreciate what they already have.
It seemed in order to help, I needed to redirect the writers’ attention from Reiki as a thing or an energy that is “used,” to Reiki as a practice.
After much contemplation, I realized what was needed: I had to redirect my attention away from the request itself, and toward the person who made the request.
I realized each of those writers was feeling anxious, so preoccupied by anxiety that he/she couldn’t see a way out.
When we are preoccupied and anxious, we will likely continue to be preoccupied and anxious, unless we take action to change our state of mind.
And that’s precisely what Reiki, the practice, does so easily — at least once we get our hands to our bodies.
Reiki helps us help ourselves
Usually the best, most effective help I can offer is to help people help themselves.
So I encouraged all the writers to practice daily hands-on self Reiki consistently, and to practice the Reiki Precepts, especially Today only, do not worry. (And if you write to me, that’s what I’ll tell you, too!)
Additionally, I suggested the about-to-be-displaced woman make a list of features she would like in her new home, practical things such as a view of trees, or a washer/dryer, and rate how important each feature was to her.
I encouraged the jilted fiancée to rely on her self-practice to create a safe haven within herself, so she could explore her feelings rather than manipulating the circumstances, and give herself time to mourn her loss and connect deeply with herself before moving forward.
And to the last writer, I wrote that nothing is more attractive than self-love and acceptance, and shared a bit of wisdom from my dad, who explained his shiny pate by saying, “Grass doesn’t grow on a busy street.”
Reiki practice can help
There is always a way that Reiki practice can help. To me, the most valuable part of practice is that it’s empowering and practical.
No magic required.