If you think your friends don’t hop on board because Reiki is so whatever, think again. It might not be Reiki at all.
It might be you.
Or rather, what you say and how you say it.
Think of it this way. Remember the last time a friend introduced you to a new beau or gal, and she wanted so much for you to like him, but she was so needy that although you wanted to be supportive, you felt uncomfortable and couldn’t even look him in the eye? You couldn’t wait to slide out of that vise of neediness, and only realized later that although he seemed fine, somehow you barely connected with him.
She didn’t trust him to carry the day, and gave him a build up that no one could follow, that no one wants to hear, and it ended in disappointment and hurt feelings.
When we desperately want people to see how special and important someone or something is, we tend to oversell it.
Needy is not impressive
When we’re talking too much because we want it too much, our neediness is all people can see, and it makes them uncomfortable.
We keep talking because we hope they won’t notice how much of this practice doesn’t make sense (which would really be okay, because people don’t expect spiritual practices to make sense).
And in a funny way, the strategy works. People don’t notice that Reiki doesn’t make sense. All they notice is that we don’t make sense and we talk too much and don’t breathe and if this is the poster girl for Reiki, if this is an example of what happens when people practice Reiki, well, they don’t want what we have.
The more you practice, the more you know how much doesn’t need to be said, and cannot be said, and the more you are at peace with that reality.
The more you practice, the more you appreciate what people can only discover for themselves.
Your job changes from Reiki evangelizing — which only calls in the fanatics — to Reiki dangling, letting the jewel shimmer through your own centered presence, giving people a chance to reach for it.
What you don’t say can’t hurt you…or Reiki.
Please leave a comment sharing what has and hasn’t worked for you when speaking to friends about Reiki.
The Mainstreaming Reiki webinar recordings help refine your communication of various aspects of Reiki practice. You can download them and listen at your convenience.